I’d like to think the amazing and wonderful Nia for the 3 day quote challenge nomination. She is a fantastic blogger who has fun, insightful and interesting posts with a unique perspective that I feel is really worth checking out.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage” – Lao Tzu
We would have all heard this quote at some point or another, or at least heard a variation of this quote. There is no denying that feeling love, care and compassion from others can give us strength, especially when we ourselves are lacking confidence. Having the support of others is a wonderful thing, it makes us feel as though we can accomplish anything. However, having the courage to love another person is another matter.
No-one wants to feel rejection, we purposefully avoid situations that will lead to unfavourable results. It’s only when we fight our initial fears that we grow stronger, when we take the leap. There is no denying that love is a risk, confessing our feelings won’t always result in an ‘ever after’. Even when it does, it takes immense courage to put ourselves out there and strength to go on knowing they might turn us down.
Loving someone deeply doesn’t just give you courage, it also takes immense courage to stand up to our fears. Loving someone deeply shows immense strength and willingness to take the plunge into the unknown. “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” – Alfred Tennyson. The reality is, denying our feelings is a sign of weakness; especially when we lie to ourselves.
Sometimes we think that we’re brave, because we are willing to put another’s feelings before our own. We think that by never admitting the truth of our desires, is what’s best for everyone, even though it causes much pain to ourselves. Whether or not we’re awkward, shy, lack confidence or just insecure, sometimes we just need to be able to tell others how we feel. Even if the circumstances won’t permit us to, we shouldn’t be afraid to love wholeheartedly in whatever way we can.
I like to tell myself that rejection is good, it allows us to move on. It isn’t the end of the world and it prevents us from living with the thought of “What if…” for the rest of our lives. Whether or not the ending is happy, is not the be all or end all of our lives, it’s how we choose to live from that point onwards. Even though I’m already in a relationship, I’m not afraid to love, I’m not afraid to express myself and say exactly what I want. I’m no longer afraid to be myself around my important person, because anyone who isn’t willing to accept me for who I’m am is honestly not worth my time or anymore thought.
Anything that requires us to put ourselves out there gives us courage, just as easily as it takes courage. Every courageous act changes us a little each time, it gives us confidence and hope. Instead of focussing on the “what if” think of the “why not”. Love the way you want to be loved so that one day someone may love you like that as well. Most importantly, love yourself; no one has the power to hurt you like your own fear and self-doubt. In all it’s forms, Love has the power to change lives.
- Thank the person who nominated you.
- Post a quote for three consecutive days (1 quote for each day).
- Share why this quote appeals so much to you.
- Nominate 3 different bloggers for each day.
And my three nominations go to:
(Hey everyone! What are your views on love? Is it essential? Unnecessary? A sometimes feeling? The reason for everything? Etc.)